While it may seem to you that some women have the unique ability of attracting men with hardly any effort on their part, the fact is that these women have simply developed the art. Hence they know how to attract the men without having to do much. You can as well develop such enviable characteristics when you take the time.
So long as you know how to go about it, you will find that you won’t have to try to imitate some model or set rules, in order to make a man burn with love towards you. There are basically 3 things that you need to bear in mind when this is your goal.
1. Develop a strong personality
You should have a strong and attractive personality if you want to draw the man of your dreams. In fact, such a personality will help you to make a success of your life in general in whatever endeavor you are engaged in.
When you would like to make that special guy love you, you should enjoy life, have fun, and be confident and motivated. You will feel good yourself and you will diffuse the positive feeling around you, hence he will love being in your company.
2. Make him comfortable
You should not expect any man to enjoy being with you when they find no comfort in your company. However, when you make the man feel great being close to you, he will take deliberate measures to keep you company. He will start thinking of you when he plans some of his programs. Let him smile and have a good time. Strike a good balance of fun and seriousness, which will make him feel at ease and be able to share some parts of his life. This brings us to the third important tip.
3. Take the time to know him better
At the beginning of your relationship, you should flirt with him as you try to get to know him better. No matter how much you are attracted to him, you should take time before getting into deeper commitments with him.
This calls for commitment and discipline. Lay out your plan and see it through without giving up along the way. Good things are worth fighting for.
4. Show That You Care About Him
A man appreciates being cared about, let him know that you care, listen to him and lend him a shoulder when he needs you the most.
When all of the above tips are properly implemented, you have just caged a man in your heart.
Online Dating Alerts
If you are in, or are interested in being in, an online relationship, it is important to know what things to look out for so you don't get hurt -- physically or emotionally. The advice you'll find below is meant for you to use as a way to help protect yourself from getting hurt. The tips are mostly common sense, but sometimes when it comes to love, it's good to have it written down for reference.
He or she is too secretive.
This can be as simple as the person is insecure with letting out information about themselves, to the person being married or living with someone else.
He or she is often flirting with other people online.
Just as in real life you can find "players" online. Watch how your online interest interacts with others. You'll learn more about them, as well as be able to spot any unusual interests.
He or she wants too much information about you right away.
Unless you are 100% completely comfortable about this person, don't give away any personal information. Even then, it is a good idea to keep important information to yourself.(if they do this - they are PROFILING you, MIRRORING you and BRAINWASHING you!)
He or she seems only interested in cyber or phone sex.
Unless this is something you are interested in, this relationship is probably not going very far.(If they don't want to meet for lunch or dinner or spend any time with you - if they live close - ditch them. They are using you like an "online hooker".)
After trust has been established, the individual will only give you a pager or cell phone number, but not a home number.
This again could just be precautionary, but again, it could indicate a cheating heart. (married or involved?)
After enough time has developed, the individual is adamant about not meeting in person. The reason for this could range from the person hiding something about their physical self, their lifestyle, other romantic involvement's, or just protecting themselves. (excuses can range from "I don't think I can control myself with you" to "I don't go out/ have time" to "I don't think its a good idea")
He or she wants you to move to local area or in with them after only one or two meetings.
While my husband and I broke this rule, I strongly urge other couples to really get to know each other in person. It worked out well for me, but if you follow this advice you will find yourself more confident about your choices if you really take the time to know them in person before deciding to make the big traveling step.
You find the person posting other personal ads online.
An obvious heartbreak in the making!(especially if they are posting at BangMatch.com or Eroticy.com, etc.... sex partner sites, while trying to lureYOU into and keep you in anEMOTIONAL relationship online, so they can use and manipulate you further)
He or she keeps e-mails from other people hidden or a secret.
Something to keep an eye out for. Any relationship that begins or is involved in secrecy has it's days numbered.(OR...... they tell you not to talk to so & so online and you later find they told the other person not to talk to YOU either!! and give each of you bogus reasons to no longer talk. If THAT happensMAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS TO CONTACT THE OTHER PERSON IMMEDIATELY!!)
He or she asks for money or other help or even suggests they are broke.
You may feel comfortable with this, but it's not a good idea, especially if you just met them. Don't open yourself to a potentially huge financial loss.
He or she won't let you mail cards or other gifts to home address.
This is also another sign of a possible romantic interest living with them. Take the extra precautions to make sure your online interest is not already involved with someone. (If eventually, they still won't even GIVE you a home address! Bolt!)
Every tip is dependent upon your instincts and individual situation. What is good for one person may not be good for the next. Use your head, and your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, question it and resolve it quickly. You may discover it was a case of doubt, but you may also discover it wasn't!
By Jennifer M. Good
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Know When It's Time to Get Out Of A Relationship!
As an eligible single woman, it's only natural to be looking for that significant other who will sweep you off your perfectly pedicured, Louboutin-clad feet. You go out with the girls in hopes of catching the eye of your future Prince Charming and securing that fairytale ending, but sometimes dating trials run amuck, leaving you with an experience that you wish you could have skipped out on.
Dating can be fun, but oftentimes we have to weed out the freaks before we find the ones worth our time. Some guys have idiosyncrasies that are just too much to handle, but what are the real red flags that should send you running in the completely opposite direction? Here are some deal breakers that we think warrant an instant end to the relationship. These guys mean trouble:
The Cheater
This guy plans dates with multiple girls at a time even when you've been seeing each other for a couple of weeks at minimum. He claims he's keeping his options open, but what that really means is that he has commitment issues and that he's somewhat of a player. This guy definitely is not ready to be in a monogamous relationship, so get out before you get hurt. Keep your eyes peeled for his constant checking of text messages and any smirks that may cross his face while he responds.
The Liar
Like the cheater, this guy won't be straight up with you. He'll ignore certain topics you bring up and will try to immediately change the subject. If he can't look you in the eyes when you ask him what he did that day, then there's a problem. This should send you running in the opposite direction before he ends up lying about something much more serious than his daily routine. Obviously this guy has major skeletons in his closet, and you won\'t want to stick around long enough to find out what they might be.
The Guy that Needs Anger Management
This guy will seem perfect and charming at first, but the more time you spend with him, the more you'll notice all the little things that make him tick... He'll talk to you about how upset he got over something a normal person would shrug off without a second thought. Once he gets comfortable with you, beware. The snapping will most likely get directed at you. Warning: this guy will probably need to punch something (like a wall) to relieve his anger. So get out, because he\'s bound to turn into an angry, manipulative, control freak in time.
Inappropriate Commentary
This guy's mom never taught him how to properly respect a woman. He probably views you as an object and worships music artists who make a living out of lyrics that oftentimes degrade women. He's the guy that will talk about your rear end beyond the point of sexiness, or he\'ll comment about other women's assets in front of you. Not okay. Don't get caught up with this type of guy -- he'll only make you feel bad about yourself in the end, and that's a definite deal-breaker.
The Cheapskate
A cheapskate is cheap. He'll take you to dive bars and pinch pennies even if he's not on a budget. Eventually he\'ll be asking you to foot the bill or join forces when the check comes. Offering to help out with costly dating expenses is only fair when you're in a serious relationship, but if he requests that you foot the bill on the first date, then politely move on.
Poor Hygiene
Chronic bad breath, disgusting body odor, and poor sartorial choices all fall under the category of poor hygiene, which is just plain gross -- and definitely a deal-breaker. Pass on these guys, unless you have a strange fetish for uber-grungy types. You may think you can persuade him to clean up his act, but we never recommend entering a relationship in which you\'re already scheming to change your man\'s ways.
The Tease
This guy is just full of empty promises. He\'ll have a slew of great ideas that just don't come to pass, leaving you high and dry. Don't let him pull you into his negative ways with zero follow-through. It will only turn you into a pessimist, and who wants to be around one of those?
The Mama's Boy
The definition of a mama's boy is a guy with no shame who still lives at home. Hell probably introduce you to his parents right off the bat and tell you that he's still dependent because he's saving up for his so-called "bright future." In our poor economy, we'll give younger twentysomething dudes a break in this case, but let\'s face it -- if this guy is almost 30, and still shacking up with mom and dad -- DEAL-BREAKER.
The Guy with Weird Friends
This guy takes a while to introduce you to his friends, but once he does, you automatically know why: they're freaks. This should make you wonder about his true character and whether or not you'd be willing to spend a large chunk of your time with these dudes. We think this is your exit cue.
The Napoleon Syndrome
This is the short man with the big mouth who feels the need to be outspoken in order to make up for his vertical challenge. He'll most likely end up embarrassing himself (and you) when you're out in public because of his need for attention. Plus, we'd never want to date a guy who has serious underlying issues with insecurity. Confidence is the ultimate form of sexiness.
If you are in, or are interested in being in, an online relationship, it is important to know what things to look out for so you don't get hurt -- physically or emotionally. The advice you'll find below is meant for you to use as a way to help protect yourself from getting hurt. The tips are mostly common sense, but sometimes when it comes to love, it's good to have it written down for reference.